A decisive change in Stage 4 ALIGNMENT

So how do you get from anxiety and frustration to accommodation, from conflict to resolution?

You have created a realistic expectation of a relationship. But that's not so easy, because you have to adapt to your own expectations of partnership and partner first. That is, you have to objectively stand and make changes in yourself – really change what you expect this relationship to be, which is rather difficult. Next, you have to re-create the spark that has joined you. When you find that you are just disappointed that you do not really like a partner, you also realize that you have to ignite the fire of attraction again before burning them. But rebuilding an acceptable relationship is not something you can do on your own, especially when the partner stops being eye-catching or appealing, or emotionally rejects you and lacks valuable chemistry.

The only way to get started is to jointly decide on mutual harm and concern and then to set realistic goals. This recognition of potential injuries is crucial to continuing. It is obvious that communication skills are very important here. Talk, listen, ask questions, clarify the answers – all this is important, but it can be difficult when the other person does not want to take or find it difficult to explain their feelings. However, if two people really want to continue their relationship, speak and obey, they are the keys to getting rid of tension and confessing to each other's perspective.

The alignment phase is considered the beginning of the best part of the relationship. Conflict recognition becomes the key to the rest of the union and emphasis is placed on both parties' awareness of the needs, self-care and expression and expression of love and determination, even real sex satisfaction begins at this stage because the couple probably understand their emotional needs better, (1965)

Quality Time Together The study found that most couples must marry about 15 years before their sexual life becomes the most satisfying.

This is the point, the stage of the solution where there is a truly happy and successful marriage possible based on a more realistic position What matters most now is the time together, spends time by doing things that you both enjoy and improve the quality of your life and equality and respect, especially the reality and acceptance that both partners are important for unification. Nobody is bigger than another, or someone else has a higher superiority. Complementing everything you do because it's the purpose of a partnership Without this partner, this relationship would not exist, so each partner describes the appropriate respect. But if there is a problem with this aspect, it might be that you have to first love and respect yourself before you really can deal with someone else. Still, you may not have been able to achieve self-esteem due to low respect due to poor success, past unsuccessful relationships, personal fear and / or uncertainty.

That's why this phase is strong on determination and loyalty, but little anticipated due to the already existing relationship, care and commitment of each partner to each other and the trust and faith that help flourish the relationship. In such a determined unity that would lend for some time, each side gradually adopts personal boundaries – not because they must – but because they really want it. It also seems the most natural thing to be loyal and loving to a partner for many years, although adherence to commitments of any kind is often difficult. When couples move to this stage of their relationship, they spent a significant amount of time together (sometimes 12-20 years) and wanted to spend their future in the society of the other.

This is the stage in which you recognize not only that your relationship can rise to a different level but also that you have the power to make real changes. While one or both of you may still feel anxiety, confusion and fear, and may prevent any changes, they will now make sure that their happiness becomes a partner. And this is best done by taking each responsibility for their individual behavior. At this stage, you are getting new information and knowledge about yourself, your partner, and the nature of your marriage or relationship. Questions of sharing, trust and mutual respect are taken for granted. This quieter phase also represents the end of the familiarization cycle, because the commitment is far more conclusive. Expectations have evolved to make it less competitive and more compatible. It seems that both sides want the same things, although they can be in varying amounts or dressed in different shapes.